asc1226 ( member #75363) posted at 11:13 PM on Friday, January 2nd, 2026
I'm getting back together and working things out with my BF. I'm sorry but I don't think it's appropriate if we see each other anymore ".
This suggests that you were going through some kind of separation, and that their relationship was legitimate. Do not cede that ground if it’s not true. You don’t mention if her AP even knows about you. If he doesn’t, from his point of view she’s been lying and cheating on him too.
If that’s the case the message should be more along the lines that she is in a long term relationship and has been cheating and she is going no contact with him. Of course you need to see and approve the message before it’s sent.
If you you’re still interested in gathering information the next time you check her phone look at messages with friends or family she typically tells "everything", especially if there’s anyone in her circle who has practiced infidelity before. Cheaters love to be told that they’re doing nothing wrong.
You can also buy a voice activated recorder and put it in her car under the seat (velcro) or in the pocket behind it. If she is confiding in someone a confrontation will usually provoke a conversation about her affair or even a phone call with the AP telling him to ignore the no contact message.
I make edits, words is hard
