You have no idea what’s going on with him?
As a BH, I’ll tell you what’s going on with him:
YOU LEFT HIM FOR ANOTHER MAN!
That’s what’s going on with him.
You told him he’s not enough, and you’re looking for what you want elsewhere.
That’s what’s going on with him.
He sees you with your arms and legs wrapped around another man, having the best sex ever.
That’s what’s going on with him.
You’re worried he might divorce you?
His insecurity is 100 times yours. You’ve already divorced him, in the most meaningful way. He’s just waiting for you to pack.
This isn’t about messy cabinets. Good grief, there’s you, him and a daughter. How messy can the house be?
And every time you fuss about this shit, it just reminds him how unhappy you are.
But if I’m wrong, and this really is about messy cabinets, then you both need therapy of some sort.
Best wishes.
