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I feel very low.
41 years old.
2 small kids 9 and 11.
An alcoholic spouse that cheated and basically ignores me all day every day.

I’m trash. Worthless. Too scared to leave. I keep thinking "I’m not the kind of person who just gives up. I’m not the kind of person who thinks the grass is greener somewhere else."
I’m loyal. I put family first. I fight for my family.

But there is no love. There is no family. Maybe I’m just the kind of person who attracts horrible monsters. Something in me is broken and I will never know love. I will never have a happy family.

I thought I had it. I was so sure.
It’s all gone now.

Is there even such a thing as a man who will love you and put you first? Is that a myth?
What am I even fighting for? Too many Disney movies?

I AM BROKEN. Will never be the same. Just filled with sorrow.

Arctic girl, you are not trash. His cheating was all about him, and sadly had nothing to do with you. You could be perfect and he still would’ve cheated because it was all about his lack of character. This is hard because means none of this is in your control and you can’t fix it, but that’s the truth.

You are a wonderful mom and you were a good spouse. And you kind of empathetic. You are good you don’t need him. And you’re kind of empathetic. You are good and you don’t need him.- You are good just as you are.you are good just as you are

We know how much pain you’re in right now. Thousands of us I want the same thing for ugly streets and we made it through to the other side. Please trust that you have the strength to take care of your children and to walk away from this man is hurting now. You did put family first and by taking care of your children you will still be putting family first. He’s the one who has walked away from the family.

And yes, there are good men out there. Just like there are good women. After you’ve divorced, and you’ve healed from this, you’ll find a good partner and you’ll see that life can be very different.After you’ve divorced, and you’ve healed from this, you’ll find a good partner and you’ll see that life can be very different.

So hang in there and trust that you will get to the other side. Start taking very small steps to get your ducks in a row. You can do this. (((Hugs)))

Please please please 🙏 do not let a broken alcoholic cheating spouse define you.

It is unfortunate your spouse is an alcoholic. You se how the addiction rules their life. If you stand in their way of feeding the addiction, you are the bad guy.

I hope you see how warped an adduct’s thinking is. They blame everyone else for their issues INSTEAD OF getting help.

Go to Al Anon or seek some professional help. You need to look at reality and understand YOU are not the problem. You are not trash. You are not to blame for a spouse’s choices or cheating or addictions.