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Celebrating 5000 days of Sobriety

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 looking forward (original poster member #25238) posted at 6:59 PM on Wednesday, January 4th, 2023

I haven't been back for a while, but I know some old timers will remember my sobriety journey, especially the pics that I used to share from our favourite winter island destination. Unfortunately, due, in part, to my H's health ups and downs, (plus the seeming nightmare of air travel), I don't think we'll get there this year. Life is good; we're old and moving more slowly, but we are holding on tighter and love each other very, very much. We just celebrated 55 years together back in early December.

Together 56 years, Married 51 years. Sober since 2009. "You've always had the power, my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." (The Wizard of Oz)

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 8:55 PM on Wednesday, January 4th, 2023

Congratulations!!! 馃帀馃帀馃帀

I remember the lovely pictures you used to post. Glad to hear you are both doing well and congratulations on celebrating 55 years!!! Wow!!!

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 9:26 PM on Wednesday, January 4th, 2023

Congratulations! What a wonderful accomplishment!

BS Fwh

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 9:53 PM on Wednesday, January 4th, 2023

I remember and love your annual pics. Sorry that it鈥檚 not in the cards right now.
Congratulations on the tremendous accomplishment of 5000 days sober. And for your 55 years together.
Wonderful update!

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 10:05 PM on Wednesday, January 4th, 2023

Oh Looking forward, what a wonderful update. Congratulations!

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 10:12 PM on Wednesday, January 4th, 2023

I love you, sweet Sister. We share so many things in common and I always think of you around this time of year.

Congratulations on your continued sobriety.

Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.

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ZenMumWalking ( Guide #25341) posted at 10:27 PM on Wednesday, January 4th, 2023

Wowweeeeeeee!!!!! grin grin grin grin grin grin

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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Solarchick ( member #80222) posted at 11:41 PM on Wednesday, January 4th, 2023

Congratulations! It takes a strong and honest person to really get it and be fortunate enough to keep it. You're a walking miracle!

Me: BW, 57, two awesome grown sons. Remarried in 2010. That lasted 11 years.WXH: Not even a blip on my radar anymore. I'm glad he's messing up the OW's life now and leaving me alone. D (with cause) in 2004.

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 looking forward (original poster member #25238) posted at 1:01 AM on Thursday, January 5th, 2023

It's been wonderful to read your messages of support.

I think of you often HFSSC (it was 54 years ago this past October sad but I know that I have God's grace and forgiveness.

Blessings to all,

lf

[This message edited by looking forward at 12:51 PM, Thursday, January 5th]

Together 56 years, Married 51 years. Sober since 2009. "You've always had the power, my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." (The Wizard of Oz)

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 4:29 PM on Thursday, January 5th, 2023

Congratulations, looking forward!

It takes a great deal of courage and inner strength, my dad tried and tried and tried and tried. Succeeded just for brief periods of time.

Both of you look great!

[This message edited by annb at 4:30 PM, Thursday, January 5th]

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Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 6:29 PM on Thursday, January 5th, 2023

Congratulations to you.

Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we鈥檙e miserable again

Staying together for the kids

D-day 2010

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 6:33 PM on Thursday, January 5th, 2023

Hey there sweet lady, Sorry you didn't make it to Jamaica. I was looking forward to the beach shot.
Glad to see you are doing well, and maintaining your sobriety, that is an amazing accomplishment.

Congratulations!!!!!

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:46 PM on Thursday, January 5th, 2023

I miss the beach shot, too.

I'm so glad you posted. I'm even happier that you're still going, like the bunny rabbit on batteries. smile

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 3:52 AM on Friday, January 6th, 2023

Congratulations!!! On the 5000 days. Wow

One day at a time.

Hope there are beaches in your future again soon.

"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!

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number4 ( member #62204) posted at 1:40 AM on Saturday, January 7th, 2023

Congratulations! I'm sure you appreciate every day of sobriety... all 5000 of them!

Me: BWHim: WHMarried - 30+ yearsTwo adult daughters1st affair: 2005-20072nd-4th affairs: 2016-2017Many assessments/polygraph: no sex addictionStatus: R

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little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 2:43 PM on Sunday, January 8th, 2023

I can see your feet in the sand picture in my mind!

Congratulations!! grin

Failure is success if we learn from it.

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Dorothy123 ( member #53116) posted at 4:09 PM on Wednesday, January 11th, 2023

Congratulations !

Good for you !

"I鈥檒l get you my pretty, and your little dog too!" Wicked Witch of the West.

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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 6:14 PM on Thursday, January 12th, 2023

So THRILLED that you posted this!!!

And the picture is FANTASTIC!

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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hopefull77 ( member #43221) posted at 12:31 PM on Tuesday, January 17th, 2023

Congratulations!
馃檹

me-BS him-WS

"聽I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."

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 looking forward (original poster member #25238) posted at 3:22 PM on Wednesday, February 1st, 2023

HAPPY UPDATE!
My younger, adventurous, travel-loving sunny-hot-scuba-snorkelling-beach DIL and I are heading to my favourite beach later this month!
H is supportive and staying home with our felines; he is hesitant to travel with his health issues and our oldest cat is getting fragile. sad I figure this will definitely be the final winter getaway.
So, hopefully y'all will see the 5055 Days Sobriety pic!
smile

Together 56 years, Married 51 years. Sober since 2009. "You've always had the power, my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." (The Wizard of Oz)

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