Topic is Sleeping.
Heartinpain (original poster member #69161) posted at 5:05 PM on Monday, June 21st, 2021
It has been 2 years since I logged into my account here. I don’t know why I felt compelled to look it up today. But o want to give back! My story is like so many of yours, almost 3 yrs ago, I discovered my ex was cheating. I did everything I could to take him back, all the wrong things! I ignored the advice of so many of the veterans on here, because I thought we were different, that my WH could never be like that. Well, I was so wrong. He never stopped. Finally after DDay #3, and lots of small suspicions in between, I said no more. I felt like my life was ending, like I just didn’t want to go on. But I’m here today to tell you, there is life after infidelity and you can survive. I’m one year post divorce and I am so much happier. I no longer have to worry what he’s doing. Im not crippled by anxiety regarding the what if’s. I am free. My ex married the OW in April. And I don’t care, let her have him. Im better off.
I remember combing these forums for positive stories, because I was so desperate to know that I could survive this. Let me be your positive story. I’m single and my life is better. I know it’s hard to picture when you’re on the thick of it, but it is possible! Have hope 
BW, 43
Dday #1- Nov. 2018, Dday # 2- Jan. 2019, Dday #3, April 2019, Divorce final -June 2020
3 children- 17, 13, 10
It’s time to move on...
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 5:58 PM on Monday, June 21st, 2021
I'm so happy for you. You sound strong and healthy. Thank you for sharing.
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
Karmafan ( member #53810) posted at 6:02 PM on Monday, June 21st, 2021
Heartinpain, what a nice update! And you are only a year from divorce! It does get even better you know
Me 48 XWH Irrelevant D-day 23 Feb 163 amazing, resilient kids
You are not a drop in the Ocean, you are the entire Ocean in a drop
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:24 PM on Monday, June 21st, 2021
Congratulations on healing and finding peace and happiness!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Somethingclever ( new member #79047) posted at 7:59 PM on Sunday, July 4th, 2021
Thank you for your story. Just starting this process and hope if very hard to hold right now. It’s comforting to see life happen after.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 8:31 PM on Sunday, July 4th, 2021
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 1:26 AM on Monday, July 5th, 2021
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 2:18 AM on Monday, July 5th, 2021
So happy for you. I remember your story. You extended yourself above and beyond. Thanks for the update. Good luck.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 2:54 AM on Monday, July 5th, 2021
Onward!
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
twicefooled ( member #42976) posted at 2:13 PM on Monday, July 5th, 2021
I love seeing posts like this <3
Congratulations on your new life. Mine is unrecognizable from 7yrs ago and every year it just gets better :)
May 29 2021 ***reclaimed myself and decided to delete my story with my ex because I'm now 7 years free from him and mentally healthier than I've been in years.
*********When you know better, you can do better*************
Maxwell354 ( member #79092) posted at 10:02 AM on Saturday, July 10th, 2021
Looking for this now. Thank you.
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 4:18 PM on Saturday, July 10th, 2021
This is a very POSITIVE story...and thank you so much for sharing it 
!!!
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 4:53 AM on Saturday, August 28th, 2021
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Topic is Sleeping.
