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DebraVation (original poster member #51156) posted at 7:09 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2024
Hi all,
I posted here in 2015 when my husband cheated with a friend and then I found myself back here in March 2023 when he did it again. That was when I filed for divorce.
Anyway, it's taken a loooong time. Anyone who claims you can get a divorce in 6 months in the UK is having a laugh, especially when there are kids involved and some debate over finances. And then you have to factor in house sales falling through and other hiccups along the way.
Anyway - the divorce was final at the start of May, I moved on Friday and the house sale was completed today. We are all finished apart from one pension still to be moved. I am gradually switching everything back to my maiden name.
We were still living in the same house until Friday. And honestly - it was fine. After being in a rage for a couple of months I eventually found I didn't really care. And even when the divorce came through, and when I moved out I felt very little. I think because I had mentally left as soon as he cheated again. I did all my crying the first time around.
We are civil. he borrowed my car today to clear the remaining things from the house. It's all fine. I think he's a fool. I think he'll struggle without me. I don't wish him any good or any bad because I just don't care enough about it. I think I would mind if he replaced me very quickly - not because I want him back though.
Best wishes to everyone else going through this.
x
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 8:24 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2024
Congratulations on your new beginning. My D should be final any day now. This process has taken forever 
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 10:37 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2024
Congratulations on your new beginning!
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
BrokenheartedUK ( member #43520) posted at 11:13 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2024
Anyone who claims you can get a divorce in 6 months in the UK is having a laugh
^^^Word. I filed in March 2015, divorce came through in August 2016.
I remember you! I always loved your user name.
Congratulations! Free at last!! You're going to be just fine. More than fine. Enjoy your peace and quiet.
Me: BS
He cheated and then lied. Apparently cheaters lie. Huh. 13 months of false R. Divorced! 8/16 3 teenage kids
"The barn's burnt down
Now
I can see the moon"
-Mizuta Masahide
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 1:11 AM on Tuesday, June 25th, 2024
Congratulations, Debravation! I remember you from 2015ish, and I remember you coming back here. Welcome to the other side!
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:45 AM on Tuesday, June 25th, 2024
Congratulations on getting out of infidelity! And sounds like you are in a healthy place.
Don’t be surprised by a few sneaker waves, but this will be an amazing new beginning for you.
Well done! 👏👏
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 8:34 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024
Welcome to the rest of your life and congratulations for getting out of infidelity!
BW, 40s
Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried
I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.
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