It’s been 6 years and he hasn’t changed. At all. He has gotten better at hiding things, but nothing has changed.
He went to a prostitute
You separated and he had a relationship, and has lied to both of you about it.
He is going back to old ways and is getting "massages". 6 years later.
If he wanted to change he would. If he wanted to be honest, become a man of character and a safe partner he would. He has shown you nothing to indicate he gives a rats ass.
I’m sorry, in my opinion, he isn’t even close to being worthy of R and the grace and kindness you have shown him. He probably never will. This is who he is, not who you think or want him to be. He is a cakeater and cares way more about his "needs" then the marriage or you.
In my opinion, you can expect more ddays to come no matter what you do. Almost a decade later and he hasn’t done anything. I wouldn’t bet on that changing. If your son or daughter were experiencing this from their spouse, what would you tell them?
It’s probably not what you want to hear, and I know it hurts. You owe him nothing, now is the time for you to make the best decision for you.
[This message edited by HellIsNotHalfFull at 12:12 AM, Thursday, April 18th]