Standinghere...
My FWS told me a detailed false affair story about sexual activity, locations, etc, that WAS AWFUL to listen to. It was pretty bad, but it didn't quite make sense.
She did this in the MC office, and at home, and at her initial confession. When I protested that this story just didn't make sense, she swore she was telling the truth, and I just couldn't handle it.
6 months later, she told the real story. It made sense. It was worse than the initial story, but less traumatic to listen to (as if that makes any sense).
Why? Why describe fucking someone to your spouse, answering their questions, describe the meetups, etc, but torture them with false ones?
Because my wife could not bear to actually tell the real story. She could bear to tell the heartbreaking lie, but not the heartbreaking truth.
My FWS did a similar thing.
The original story was so heartbreaking that I was an emotional zombie.
Except it didn't match the evidence I had.
In my case, after several weeks of arguments and TT, when she finally told me the "true" story....I was like that's all!?!?
I later learned that she (like most waywards) was so mired in shame that she could not tell the truth...especially to herself.
She had sold this narrative to herself that there was maybe some "redeeming" qualities about the A and/or the AP...that there was "something" there.
Believing that is much easier than facing the fact that they set off a atomic bomb in the life of themselves, their BS, their children etc for some cheap thrill, or a day at a cheap restaurant or a seedy motel, from a person that was so far beneath them that they wouldn't have even noticed them in their single days.
Webbit...
Be careful to differentiate what is a lie from what is a faulty memory regarding minor details. As Houseofplane said, there will never be an end to the details if you keep pulling that thread.
Keep in mind that in a wayward's thinking NOTHING is solid, everything is fluid, fleeting and temporary. A detail that meant nothing to them at the time may pop back up, but if you ask a week later that detail is gone again
It has to be hard fo them to look in the mirror and see, stupidity, shame and guilt.
So much so that their subconscious had blurred the lines of truth, and lies, fact and fiction for the sake of avoiding a mental breakdown.
A wayward can live two different lives because the details don't matter in the life of the A, but it is much harder to BE TWO DIFFERENT PEOPLE especially when one has to suffer the consequences for the stupidity of the other.