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Emptyglass (original poster member #80295) posted at 8:18 PM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
Anyone else watch this new movie? About a man living a double life??? Major trigger. Sent me to two hour therapy session day after viewing.
OnTheOtherSideOfHell ( member #82983) posted at 12:43 AM on Thursday, February 1st, 2024
I saw it! Oddly, it almost provided me a small sense of peace as in see "your marriage isn’t an unusual freak show and sadly, cheaters are more common than society likes to think". And it gave hubby a window to talk a little about how he feels 6 years after DDay, how disgusted he feels when remembering his former self and for me to reiterate how little respect I have for cheaters who refuse to stop. Although that story was interesting because the wife agreed to continue in the marriage and allow him his girlfriend. 🤷♀️ to each their own.
Emptyglass (original poster member #80295) posted at 10:35 AM on Thursday, February 1st, 2024
It did lead to conversation for sure… but wow it was triggering. I had no idea it had that content in it and found it very difficult afterwards…
whatisloveanyway ( member #66450) posted at 2:50 PM on Thursday, February 1st, 2024
Thank you for the warning. We both wanted to see the film but know to steer clear now. I wouldn't mind if he watched it alone to see if he had any thoughts at all but I am sure it will upset me a great deal. Just mentioning that we shouldn't was spiral enough for me today. Too close to the bone.
BW: 64 WH: 64 Both 57 on Dday, M 37 years, 2 grown kids. WH had 9 year A with MOW, 7 month false R, multiple DDays from 2017 - 2022, with five years of trickle truth and lies. I got rid of her with one email. Reconciling, or trying to.
Emptyglass (original poster member #80295) posted at 3:55 PM on Thursday, February 1st, 2024
It actually bothered my spouse … a lot. And led to a two hour long session at therapy. It made him extremely uncomfortable. But I had no idea that content was involved. Yes… it was triggering for me. I went into fight/flight mode for 24 hours afterwards… the brain is a complicated beast at times.
whatisloveanyway ( member #66450) posted at 6:42 PM on Thursday, February 1st, 2024
Yes indeed, the brain is complicated. I've spent my whole life able to shift into fight mode whenever required, to run toward an accident or a problem - and the A introduced me to freeze, flee and panic attack modes. I barely recognize myself in those modes, probably the second scariest for me, besides realizing that stone cold lying eyes look just like loving honest ones. I've had two episodes like you experienced watching shows that blindside me with a LT infidelity plot line and I can spiral badly when I'm not prepared.
It's been two months since my EMDR sessions and I am so relieved I haven't had any of those episodes since, at least not yet. We did it right after my last freak out panic attack and she helped me see some of the trap doors I was falling through, while the EMDR helped me cut the cord to the emotions that the memories or thoughts drag with them. What a relief. I hope it gets easier for you. Somewhere here is a thread about good shows without infidelity related plot lines. Not a ton. I seem to remember a warning thread about triggery plot lines too. Bless this site.
BW: 64 WH: 64 Both 57 on Dday, M 37 years, 2 grown kids. WH had 9 year A with MOW, 7 month false R, multiple DDays from 2017 - 2022, with five years of trickle truth and lies. I got rid of her with one email. Reconciling, or trying to.
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