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I know holidays like this can be triggers for some, or grief soaked days that remind us of what could have been. I’m praying that God will comfort the broken and hurting among us, that we’d have a day of peace and respite.

I join you in this prayer, peace and comfort for all.

After I am done crying a little, I am going to get out of bed and hop in my hot tub.

Then I am going out for a fancy dinner with a wonderful friend whose husband is a truck driver and working today.

Another thing I am doing today is listening and singing loudly to Christmas music - my WH is still in the basement and I am sure it’s driving him crazy 😝

This will be a day of thankfulness, sadness, reflection and hopefully some humor.

Take care my friends!

Impeccable timing!

Three of my kids are home sick from school.

Big D said something about Christmas being different to Little M in the kitchen while I was doing dishes. She didn't hear him clearly and asked for him to repeat himself. He got upset. Said never mind then started to walk away.

I stopped dishes, dried my hands and asked him to tell me what he said.

He resisted at first then just broke down crying saying we've always had Christmas with a dad and now he doesn't have a dad and he's sad.

Ds and little M and I just hugged him and let him cry and say all he was feeling. Kept saying that his dad doesn't love him anymore and things aren't the same anymore.

Breaks my heart!

I assured him that while things will be different we will still have Christmas and then we discussed what they had gone over in group about different types of families.

Then DS sat down beside Big D and totally shocked me. He looks Big d right in the eyes and says "we have the best mom and that's all we need".

That brought tears to my eyes.

I told the kids it's ok to feel sad that things are different and that the firsts of everything sucks but that we can rely on eachother and be there for eachother and we will get through it all.

Oh DH, big giant hugs to you and your sweet family! Yes, they do have the best mom in the world and please don’t forget that!

Wishing you all much peace and joy today and throughout the holidays!

Thank you PinkJeepLady

I’m praying for all the people who are going to have their Dday #1 between now and New Year’s.

For some reason, the holidays seem to be a popular time for Ddays. I suppose OWs get tired of being asked by Aunt Mable while they are still single for the fifth year in a row, people get drunk and do stupid shit at holiday parties, WSs get antsy because they can’t make up excuses to get away from their family, unexplained gifts or purchases on the credit card, etc.

And a special prayer for you InkHulk during this Christmas season,
as you seek to reconcile with your wife, and restore your family.

May God bless you all with His peace, fill you all with His Joy, and embrace you all with His love.
May you all bless one another as He blesses you.
Grace and Peace,
FAWH.

Then DS sat down beside Big D and totally shocked me. He looks Big d right in the eyes and says "we have the best mom and that's all we need".

He's absolutely right, Dragn. You are raising strong, healthy adults who will understand the value of your authentic love and the cheapness of what your ex is offering. Of course they're going to grieve that they don't have that from both of you, because they deserved a good father and you deserved a good husband. But because of you, they understand that his behavior is not okay and not their fault.

I hope someday you have a partner who models the way their dad should have treated you.

As a child of divorce, I think to all of the parents who divorced who provide a stable house (even if it feels like it’s made of cards) should be praised for it.
I don’t know where my brother and I would be without a stable parent who despite all of the challenges being single might be, never let their children feel any less loved.
Merry Christmas to you all!

May God bless you all with His peace, fill you all with His Joy, and embrace you all with His love.
May you all bless one another as He blesses you.
Grace and Peace,
FAWH.

On a difficult and marred Christmas, this is beautiful and deeply appreciated. Peace and joy to you FAWH and all who read this.

I am also sending prayers, hope and positive energy to everyone struggling through the festive period. ❤️

Thank goodness for this group of wonderful kind souls.