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 PinkJeepLady (original poster member #37575) posted at 3:56 AM on Sunday, November 19th, 2023

I wasn’t sure if any of the folks I first started with on this crazy journey were still around so thought I would post here to start.

After 11 years from Dday, I am sad to say I am filing for D. There have been good times during the 11 years where I felt I could trust WH, I did uncover some porn use now and then.

Two weeks ago I uncovered him using and only fans account - it looked like for a couple of weeks but who knows if this has been ongoing. I also saw where he lost 25K from a 401 k account, took out loans I didn’t know about and has been paying some other odd accounts. It’s terrible.

When confronted he lied of course and then kind of admitted some of it. I have asked him to leave, but he has t yet. He found out I just opened my own bank account and was furious with me. Hmmmm I do a normal thing most women do but he has clearly lied and deceived me?

I can’t believe it’s happening, we are so close to retirement and had so many lovely plans. I know I will be ok, but it’s hard. I have good support from family and friends.

Fact is he is a sex addict who never completely overcame his addiction. He tried a lot of things but I don’t think fully engaged. I know you guys will understand.

Me: BW Him: FWH
DDay June 1st 2012
cheated with prostitutes overseas
Reconciled - thought so, but now divorcing

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Helena67 ( member #80506) posted at 1:24 PM on Sunday, November 19th, 2023

I'm so sorry for you. I want to send you strength and support. You don't desrve this.

BS (me) 56 years. Divorced!!!

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 PinkJeepLady (original poster member #37575) posted at 1:28 PM on Sunday, November 19th, 2023

Thank you, I really do need all the support I can get. It’s surreal. I had a dream last night that all was peaceful and then work up to knowing it’s real life that’s the nightmare.

Six months ago I had a horrible bicycle accident and badly broke both my arm and leg. I couldn’t walk for months. The recovery has been long and painful. I couldn’t have imagined ending the year with this unimaginable emotional pain.

Hard to accept I married a monster and stayed for so long.

Me: BW Him: FWH
DDay June 1st 2012
cheated with prostitutes overseas
Reconciled - thought so, but now divorcing

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WalkinOnEggshelz ( Administrator #29447) posted at 2:03 PM on Sunday, November 19th, 2023

Please support PinkJeepLady in her thread in General.

If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.

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