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Reconciliation :
He finally gets it (maybe)…

Topic is Sleeping.
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 hockeymom1 (original poster new member #71904) posted at 5:16 PM on Monday, June 5th, 2023

I’ve come on these boards, posted, read responses then have taken a step back. If being honest, I sometimes feel like I come on and read everything, looking for magical answers…

It’s been a few months since I posted and life has been going well. I have really tried to focus on myself, mental and physical.

WH has been doing his work and this has improved our relationship, although I’m still not 💯 in for reconciliation. I know my worth, my value and am taking it 1 day at a time.

Most interesting thing that has happened, that yes actually shared, was a few nights ago, he dreamt that I was divorcing him. He never shared dreams but said each time he closed his eyes, it was the same dream, so he decided not to sleep because he couldn’t deal with the awfulness of it and remained awake most of the night.

My immediate thought was to sympathize with how awful those dreams can be, especially given my own sleepiness nights over his EA, but another part of me felt a bit happy… thinking he’s actually endured similar pain or maybe finally reached a point of reality based on what he created.

Anyone gave a similar situation occur?

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Copingmybest ( member #78962) posted at 1:41 AM on Tuesday, June 6th, 2023

Mine doesn’t parallel yours quite so closely, but I have told my wife in the past that while I don’t like to see her sad, a part of me does feel better when I see her sad because it lets me know that what she did to me makes her feel bad and to me, that means she must care.

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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 11:22 AM on Friday, June 9th, 2023

It’s good to see signs that the cheater gets it.

Just too bad they didn’t get it or have some understanding of the aftermath before they cheated.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.

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