Topic is Sleeping.
lilflower1000 (original poster member #36634) posted at 5:50 PM on Saturday, January 28th, 2023
Anyone have a great song about surviving infidelity? Or about making it through tough times?
lilflower1000
Me: 51 BS
Married 19 years
Dday1: 8/1/2012 ( followed by multiple Ddays)
D-day2( AP#2):Easter-April 12 , 2020
4kids(18,16, 13, 8) + 2 grown Step kids I love like my own
Luna10 ( member #60888) posted at 5:55 PM on Saturday, January 28th, 2023
Beyoncé’s entire Lemonade album is infidelity related. Worth watching some of the clips too.
Dday - 27th September 2017
NotBrokenJustBent ( new member #82733) posted at 6:12 PM on Saturday, January 28th, 2023
Ordinary People by John Legend is a good one
We're not broken, just bent
And we can learn to love again
emergent8 ( Guide #58189) posted at 8:04 PM on Saturday, January 28th, 2023
I also really recommend listening to all of the Lemonade album. It’s specifically about infidelity and overcoming and it’s just really raw and I felt so much of it in those early days. I feel like the album as a whole covers the entire catalogue of emotions a BS goes through. There is a song for every emotion on the roller-coaster. There are lots of “overcoming” relationship songs but very few artists seem to “go there” quite the way Beyonce does.
Somehow it always helped to remind me that if Beyoncé (who is, in her words, "the baddest woman in the game") could get cheated on, then yeah, it definitely wasn’t about her (and it wasn’t about me either).
Edit: All Night is probably the most Reconciliation-focused song but as someone who has gone through it, I needed the fuck-you-imma-heal-me-for-me confidence boost of “Sorry” far more than I needed “All Night”. 😁
[This message edited by emergent8 at 8:14 PM, Saturday, January 28th]
Me: BS. Him: WS.
D-Day: Feb 2017 (8 m PA with married COW).
Happily reconciled.
Luna10 ( member #60888) posted at 8:28 PM on Saturday, January 28th, 2023
It’s specifically about infidelity and overcoming and it’s just really raw and I felt so much of it in those early days. I feel like the album as a whole covers the entire catalogue of emotions a BS goes through.
I still feel that All Night hits the right spot.
By the way I recommend watching the YouTube videos for them.
Dday - 27th September 2017
DaddyDom ( member #56960) posted at 8:51 PM on Saturday, January 28th, 2023
Me: WS
BS: ISurvivedSoFar
D-Day Nov '16
Status: Reconciling
"I am floored by the amount of grace and love she has shown me in choosing to stay and fight for our marriage. I took everything from her, and yet she chose to forgive me."
InkHulk ( member #80400) posted at 8:55 PM on Saturday, January 28th, 2023
I recommend Call and Answer by Bare Naked Ladies.
People are more important than the relationships they are in.
Howcthappen ( member #80775) posted at 1:47 AM on Sunday, January 29th, 2023
This is an old song but I think it’s about reconciling after infidelity-
Solid As a Rock by Ashford & Simpson.
It’s no a out being cheated on but I think it’s specifically about reconciling afterwards.
Three years since DdayNever gonna be the sameReconcilingThe sting is still present
Nanatwo ( member #45274) posted at 6:49 AM on Sunday, January 29th, 2023
Feels Like Tonight - Doughtry
Especially the line "there's nothing that I wanna do but try and make it up to you."
Cold Rock Bottom of your Heart - Randy Travis
These are songs about reconciliation.
My favorite 2 making it through infidelity songs are both by Reba McIntire.
How was I to Know: How was I to know I would be ok?
Thought I'd lose it all when you walked away.
How was I to know I would be this strong?
I had what it takes all along.
Hear me on the Radio - although she does't come right out and say it - it is defiantly a "fuck you" song.
Strong Enough -Cher This was my go to song when I needed to feel empowered .
Why - Tracy Byrd I really don't know why I like this song so much - it just gets to me whenever I hear it.
Time heals what reason cannot. Seneca
First the truth. Then, maybe, reconciliation. Louise Penny
NotBrokenJustBent ( new member #82733) posted at 6:44 PM on Sunday, January 29th, 2023
Somewhere Only We Know by Keane. Not totally about reconciliation after an affair, but it really hits me when my thoughts are racing- is this the place I used to love? Simple thing, where have you gone? I'm getting tired and I need something to rely on. Here's the full lyrics-
I walked across an empty land
I knew the pathway like the back of my hand
I felt the earth beneath my feet
Sat by the river and it made me complete
Oh, simple thing, where have you gone?
I'm gettin' old, and I need something to rely on
So, tell me when you're gonna let me in
I'm gettin' tired, and I need somewhere to begin
I came across a fallen tree
I felt the branches of it looking at me
Is this the place we used to love?
Is this the place that I've been dreaming of?
Oh, simple thing, where have you gone?
I'm gettin' old, and I need something to rely on
So, tell me when you're gonna let me in
I'm gettin' tired, and I need somewhere to begin
And if you have a minute, why don't we go
Talk about it somewhere only we know?
This could be the end of everything
So, why don't we go
Somewhere only we know?
Somewhere only we know
Oh, simple thing, where have you gone?
I'm getting old, and I need something to rely on
So, tell me when you're gonna let me in
I'm getting tired, and I need somewhere to begin
And if you have a minute, why don't we go
Talk about it somewhere only we know?
This could be the end of everything
So, why don't we go?
So, why don't we go?
Ooh, hey, hey
Oh-oh-oh
This could be the end of everything
So, why don't we go somewhere only we know?
Somewhere only we know
Somewhere only we know
We're not broken, just bent
And we can learn to love again
CaptainRogers ( member #57127) posted at 7:14 PM on Sunday, January 29th, 2023
The song that has stayed in my head since D-day v1.0 (and remains there) is More Than Words by Extreme.
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Saying "I love you"
Is not the words I want to hear from you
It's not that I want you
Not to say but if you only knew
How easy, it would be to show me how you feel
More than words is all you have to do to make it real
Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me
'Cause I'd already know
What would you do
If my heart was torn in two?
More than words to show you feel
That your love for me is real
What would you say
If I took those words away?
Then you couldn't make things new
Just by saying "I love you"
La-di-da, da-di-da
Di-dai-dai-da
More than words
La-di-da, da-di-da
Now that I've tried to
Talk to you and make you understand
All you have to do is close your eyes
And just reach out your hands and touch me
Hold me close, don't ever let me go
More than words is all I ever needed you to show
Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me
'Cause I'd already know
What would you do
If my heart was torn in two?
More than words to show you feel
That your love for me is real
What would you say
If I took those words away?
Then you couldn't make things new
Just by saying "I love you"
BS: 42 on D-day
WW: 43 on D-day
Together since '89; still working on what tomorrow will bring.
D-Day v1.0: Jan '17; EA
D-day v2.0: Mar '18; no, it was physical
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 7:22 PM on Sunday, January 29th, 2023
Miley Cyrus’ new song "Flowers" is a good dig on her ex Liam… who is rumored to have cheated on her with a bunch of people.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Emptyglass ( member #80295) posted at 3:35 AM on Monday, January 30th, 2023
Some People Do - Old Dominion (sent to me by WH)
Hannah47 ( member #80116) posted at 1:04 PM on Wednesday, February 1st, 2023
Reconciliation is a process that encompasses so many things, it’s hard to find one song to rule them all… Let's see…
After DDay: Shut Up – Black Eyed Peas
What BS is thinking: Self Esteem – The Offspring
What BS wants to hear: Always On My Mind – Elvis Presley
What WS is thinking: When I Come Around – Green Day
Friends: You’re My Mate – Right Said Fred
Hysterical bonding: I Feel Love – Donna Summer
BS after DDay2 / False reconciliation: My Way – Limp Bizkit
BS regaining self-esteem: Sexy And I Know It – LMFAO
WS finally exiting the fog (but not quite there yet): Dry Your Eyes – The Streets
BS thinking: Million Reasons – Lady Gaga
WS doing the work: Working My Way Back To You – Frankie Valli & The Four Seasons
Hope for the true reconciliation: Just Give Me A Reason – P!nk & Nate Ruess
After years and years, they both are just tired of fighting: 21 Guns – Green Day
Any similarity to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events, is purely coincidental.
Fate whispers to her, "You cannot withstand the storm."
She whispers back, "I am the storm."
InkHulk ( member #80400) posted at 1:56 PM on Wednesday, February 1st, 2023
How about:
WS still minimizing and victim blaming: Suspicious Minds, Elvis Presley
People are more important than the relationships they are in.
InkHulk ( member #80400) posted at 2:15 PM on Wednesday, February 1st, 2023
BS doing the Pick Me dance: You Were Mine by The Chicks
(Edited to remove a song that is actually from the OW perspective. My bad)
[This message edited by InkHulk at 4:28 PM, Wednesday, February 1st]
People are more important than the relationships they are in.
Hannah47 ( member #80116) posted at 3:26 PM on Wednesday, February 1st, 2023
I like these additions, @InkHulk!
WS establishes "no contact" with the AP:
what BS hopes for: Everything About You - Ugly Kid Joe
what really happens: Purple Rain - Prince
but it's the sad truth in many cases...
Fate whispers to her, "You cannot withstand the storm."
She whispers back, "I am the storm."
InkHulk ( member #80400) posted at 4:33 PM on Wednesday, February 1st, 2023
Sifting thru the rubble of a broken relationship but trying: Beautiful Trauma by Pink
People are more important than the relationships they are in.
ladyphoenix ( member #72766) posted at 7:41 PM on Wednesday, February 1st, 2023
Pink: We Could Have it All
Pink: Courage
Really all of the Hurts 2B Human album touches a chord.
The Chicks album Gaslighter is about her surviving, not reconciling.
M 25 years, together 31. DD1 Feb 2019, DD2(TT) June 2019, DD3 (TT) July 2019, (TT) March 2020, (TT) Sept 2020.We have 3 children: 24,20, 15 and two grandchildren since 2019. We work daily on R and building a stronger relationship.
Greto ( member #80904) posted at 9:33 PM on Wednesday, February 1st, 2023
Recently heard Hoobastank "Reason" and it made me shed a few tears. My WH was in the room too and we both just looked at each other and I said this is his song to me. I know some might get a different message than I do from the song, but I find it fits my situation well, except my WH is changing for himself not just "for me" but to be a better person and husband.
I'm not a perfect person
There's many things I wish I didn't do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so, I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
And the reason is you
I'm sorry that I hurt you
It's something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
That's why I need you to hear
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
And the reason is you
And the reason is you
And the reason is you
And the reason is you
I'm not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
And the reason is you
I've found a reason to show
A side of me you didn't know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you
Topic is Sleeping.
