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TaraInFlorida (original poster new member #82499) posted at 2:41 AM on Tuesday, January 17th, 2023
Hi All,
I allowed four rounds of "her" before I finally said it was over and meant it. I have been at peace and things are going smoothly thus far. He knows this is all his fault and is currently very "giving" in terms of settlements. I feel like I need to rush the divorce while he is being remorseful and kind because it’s only a matter of time before he starts the blaming me bullcrap again. Has anyone ever thought it (the divorce) was going to be easy and simple but then the guilty party turned on you and made things complicated?
Ugh I just want this done and to move on with my life. I can only shed so many tears over one person.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:14 AM on Tuesday, January 17th, 2023
Congratulations on finding your way out of infidelity! That peace means the world!
And yes, get all the D details worked out favorably for you quickly just in case.
I know this is bittersweet at best, but when you know you know, and there really is a peace and comfort with being out of limbo.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Forks027 ( member #59996) posted at 10:55 PM on Friday, January 20th, 2023
Has anyone ever thought it (the divorce) was going to be easy and simple but then the guilty party turned on you and made things complicated?
Gonna sound scary, but I say this to have you prepare.
Most of the time, they always renege on stuff they previously agreed upon. This is mostly due to their AP whispering in their ears and blowing smoke up their a$$ to "get everything they deserve."
In the event that he does make things complicated, communicate with legal representation to see what your options are.
Hope for the best but prepare for the worst.
kiwilee ( member #10426) posted at 2:02 AM on Saturday, January 21st, 2023
Yes run with the process while he is being kind and fair.
If he turns back to the asshat he is, be prepared.
Either way, your main goal is to get the f out of infidelity. Keep your eye on the prize.
wantnomore ( member #71871) posted at 11:30 AM on Wednesday, January 25th, 2023
Has anyone ever thought it (the divorce) was going to be easy and simple but then the guilty party turned on you and made things complicated?
My FW started the divorce back in the middle of November. It was actually nine months TO THE DAY of my DDay. I knew it was coming, and actually had all my financial shit together, so after I was served my lawyer drafted a settlement offer and sent it over to her.
That was on November 15.
As of today, still no response.
She was the one who was so adamant that we can't fix this and that this was the only way forward, yet she can't get her shit together and follow through.
So yes, she's making things pretty damn complicated.
I just want this done and to move on with my life. I can only shed so many tears over one person.
I can't tell you how many times I've said that to myself!
Me: BH (57)Her: STBXWW (52)DDays - 9/10/01, 10/15/19, 7/3/21, 2/11/22.I'm dumb, but I do learn eventually. D started 11/11/22
Topic is Sleeping.
