He didn't cheat because of anything you did or didn't do. Neither you or the marriage is a fault. HE needs to work on himself,and figure out what it is in him that said infidelity is an option. It's way too soon for MC. He needs to be in IC for awhile.
What is his plan to become a safe partner?
At minimum, he should be...
Tested for stds. When distance isn't a factor, it's very rare that affairs aren't physical.
Find a new job if OW is a coworker.
Answer all of your questions without anger or defensiveness, and no blame.
Fully transparent. You get full access to all accounts, including the phone. Passwords included.
He goes complete NC with OW.
He writes a complete timeline.
And anything else you need to begin to feel safe.
Your Job is to take care of yourself, and watch his actions. His words mean nothing. He's a wayward,and they lie. And you need to be tested for stds.
You need to call her husband and tell him of the affair. Do not tell your husband. He will warn her,and by the time you speak to the husband, he will have been told you're crazy,and accusing all female acquaintances of having an affair with your husband. And,since he is supposed to be NC, if he says anything you know the affair is continuing.
Do not tell him about this site.
[This message edited by HellFire at 5:41 PM, Thursday, January 5th]