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Annoying contact from Ex

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 716dayslost (original poster member #11536) posted at 3:13 AM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2022

I have been D from WW for almost 9 years. I wished to have no connection (no kids, etc) with her and have been NC for over 4 years. I have no animosity toward her but wish to keep our lives totally separate in every way.

Over the last few months, she has made attempts to contact me. (She is blocked from my media) It started small, with a postcard. Then a letter, then a gift sent. Now she left a gift on my front porch when I was not home.

Have had enough and just want it to stop. Zero chance of any relationship let alone reconciliation. 10 years of affairs and false reconciliation were enough to know that chapter is closed permanently.

I do not want to contact her because that breaks my NC and then she achieved her goal to get me to respond.So is there anything you can suggest with out contacting her in any way? Should I just wait it out and see if eventually she gets the hint? I know nothing of her life so I do not know if her and AP are still together. What are your thoughts?

I just want to live my life in peace and she has no place in it. Thanks

You can stand me up at the gates of hell
But I won't back down
In a world that keeps on pushin' me around
But I'll stand my ground and I won't back down

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MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 1:41 PM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2022

I think the mail has an option to "return to sender"?

Or you can donate the gifts to charity?

WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.

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ff4152 ( member #55404) posted at 6:22 PM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2022

Would you consider contact via a third party? If you can afford it and are open to it, perhaps have your attorney send her a cease and desist letter. That would definitely get your point across without and direct contact from you.

Me -FWS

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 716dayslost (original poster member #11536) posted at 3:30 AM on Wednesday, October 5th, 2022

thanks.
I may go the third party route eventually. But I cannot understand why after 9 years she is doing this. But then again, I never understood why she was WW for so many years.

You can stand me up at the gates of hell
But I won't back down
In a world that keeps on pushin' me around
But I'll stand my ground and I won't back down

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