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So my ex has a special woman in his life

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 Tallgirl (original poster member #64088) posted at 2:23 AM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2022

My son told me tonight. His dad has someone special in his life. And I kinda don’t care.

Is that progress?

Poor woman

Standing tall

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 2:56 AM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2022

That sounds like indifference to me…. So yes, progress.

Nice job healing!

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Hippo16 ( member #52440) posted at 4:00 AM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2022

Progress for you? YES!!!👍

Progress for your sons Father? Nah - "Poor woman" 🧅

There's no troubled marriage that can't be made worse with adultery."For a person with integrity, there is no possibility of being unhappy enough in your marriage to have an affair, but not unhappy enough to ask for divorce."

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leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 5:36 AM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2022

Yes! Now you can say, "Not my circus, not my monkeys."

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

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EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 6:58 PM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2022

Is that progress?

Definitely. My point of care expires right after "as long as she is good to my kids" I.E. when they were little.

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 Tallgirl (original poster member #64088) posted at 7:39 AM on Tuesday, October 11th, 2022

I read my first book start to finish since 2018. Yeah. It is a start.

glorious!

Standing tall

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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 1:27 PM on Tuesday, October 11th, 2022

Poor woman. She has no idea what she is in for.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.

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barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 9:14 PM on Tuesday, October 11th, 2022

Poor woman is right.

I'm glad that you are indifferent about her. smile

Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.

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 Tallgirl (original poster member #64088) posted at 3:21 AM on Wednesday, October 12th, 2022

Without a doubt. He will repeat the same pattern.

I am sure that He is in the honeymoon phase. It will end soon.

I kinda feel like I am doing a disservice to the woman. She won’t believe me anyways. So back to the don’t care place. 😊

Standing tall

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 Tallgirl (original poster member #64088) posted at 3:22 AM on Sunday, October 23rd, 2022

Well I thought it was coming briefly. She must be special. Divorce proceeding we’re start3d this week.

He has a pattern. After he decided I was special, he started divorce proceedings.

And repeat.

[This message edited by Tallgirl at 3:22 AM, Sunday, October 23rd]

Standing tall

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leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 2:30 AM on Monday, October 24th, 2022

Hang in there, Tallgirl.

After all the blood, sweat and tears you put into the relationship, it can still hurt when they pick their next victim.

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

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 Tallgirl (original poster member #64088) posted at 4:56 PM on Monday, October 24th, 2022

Thanks Leafields,

I don’t want him. But I guess I wanted him to stay miserable.

And it is the final nail in that happily ever after bit of whimsy that we all have.

And. It burns me a little, he goes through life doing the same shit.

Well not my problem, he can pretend he is a good guy. It will last until the infatuation stops. Then he will show his true colours.

Standing tall

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leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 6:06 PM on Monday, October 24th, 2022

Yeah, I felt the same way when XWH got remarried. He was supposed to stay alone & be miserable for the rest of his life. Now, he's married and will be miserable for the rest of his life.

He's totally misled who he is to his new wife. My oldest said he doesn't think his dad even likes her, so why get married?

It's weird watching it from the other side. But I'm so glad I'm free from all that bull.

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

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