O.M.G. The "NGE" had left his power washer here, and kept telling me that he'd be over to pick it up. So I'd put it out in the driveway, and he wouldn't pick it up. So I'd put it back in the garage each night so it wouldn't get stolen, text him that I had done so, and put it out again in the morning. Well, he started using that as an excuse to get me texting him. He just wasn't picking the damn thing up. But we'd have a short chit-chat each evening.
Last night, he accused me of cheating on him because he assumed that I was looking for the new guy before he dumped me. Yeah, it was fast, and I did not expect to meet somebody new in like a day and a half, but I didn't unhide my profile until after he made it abundantly clear that we would never reconcile. And he called me a piece of shit. I was so done!!! So I blocked him on my phone.
Today, I start thinking about this game that he's been playing with me, and remembered that when we were first dating, his ex-girlfriend still had some stuff at his house. He was perfectly OK with her coming by and picking up a few things every couple of days. I told him very clearly that the situation was not ok with me and he needed to get all of her stuff out of the house and stop talking to her.
I did some basic math and figured out that he was leaving the door open to restarting a relationship with her while he was starting a relationship with me! Obviously, I have a VERY strong opinion about this kind of behavior.
So I unblocked him today and texted him to get his ass over here in an hour to pick up his power washer or I would put it on the FB marketplace. AND I let him know that I had figured out about him leaving the option open with the ex. And then I set him proof that I did not make contact the new guy until 3 days after he dumped me. I was on fire.
I set an hour timer on my phone.
65 minutes later, he was loading his stuff into his truck. I did not talk to him.
He is 100% out of my life and I am very grateful that I dodged that bullet!
I have all sorts of adrenaline running around my system right now that I need to get rid of. Maybe I'll go out and pick up my car a few times.
ETA: Yeah, I blocked him on my phone again.
[This message edited by Solarchick at 8:11 PM, Friday, August 5th]