You decide how you want to spend this time.
You can view it as an OPPORTUNITY to gather yourself, your thoughts, reflect, learn, etc.
or
You can view it from the "poor me, I may get D" perspective.
Entirely up to you.
I did a 6month S about 18 months after dday.
My WH took the latter approach. We are not in R.
If you want to be seen as R material, it's up to you to start behaving like it.
I have had lots of casual sex affairs and even some prostitutes for the last 8 years.
I'm no therapist, but this sounds like behavior worthy of seeing a CSAT and getting an evaluation for sex addiction. Even if you are not SA, a CSAT is something you may want to consider.
IIRC you looked into programs for SA - have you actually participated?
And I second the Help.Her.Heal Book. Along with How to Help Your Spouse Heal.
And the Osterlind/Breecker interview on the Addicted Mind
And the Helping Couples Heal podcast - esp the interviews with Omar Minwalla and Stan Tatkin. You may have already done that, but if not, I think there is a ton of helpful info (esp in those podcasts).
M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived
It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies