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Anyone else avoid this forum when first at SI?

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 BearlyBreathing (original poster member #55075) posted at 7:31 PM on Thursday, December 10th, 2020

When I first joined SI this forum was inexplicable to me.

How could anyone joke around when my world just imploded? Who can play games when I can’t think straight for more than 4 minutes at a time? I would almost get annoyed that people were being happy and light and fun!

Now I look forward to SPF every week.

Time truly is a healer.

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 7:46 PM on Thursday, December 10th, 2020

When I first joined SI this forum was inexplicable to me.

I felt the same

It took me over two months to come down here, and I'm glad I did. I joined at a time when this forum was much more active. There were threads that would go 50 pages in a matter of days. I still remember being able to laugh because of this forum, and how healing it felt

Now I look forward to SPF every week.

SPF is definitely a high point of the week

[This message edited by SI Staff at 1:47 PM, December 10th (Thursday)]

FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live

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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 2:14 AM on Friday, December 11th, 2020

Me! Me! Me!!! (Waving hand) It was a while before I really paid attention enough to even notice it and when I did, I could not, for the life of me, figure out just WHY this kind of site would even have a section of the forum devoted to humor. Like you, I ventured to F&G and finally realized I could laugh here.

Now it's one of my regular haunts. The topics that really cinched it for me are G2Gs, the Christmas Card exchange and SPF. In fact, I was thinking about this and almost started a thread like this last week. Great minds think alike, BB!

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Chili ( member #35503) posted at 3:41 PM on Friday, December 11th, 2020

Right? Fun and Games ass I thought when I first arrived on SI. As a matter of fact, the New Beginnings Forum kind of pissed me off too. New Beginnings ass I thought.

Hell - I'm sure Off Topic was equally annoying now that I think about it. What the hell other kind of "topics" could there be?

Perhaps I was a bit surly or something.

It was actually a Guide who encouraged me to post in NB when I got my pup. They said D/S was for assclowns and NB were for puppies.

You will note I'm replying to this on a Friday because I'm in here looking for those SPF gems.

Time is a healer indeed Bearly.

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

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betrayedafter20 ( member #72875) posted at 4:42 PM on Thursday, January 7th, 2021

Totally me, BB! In fact - it is just now I am able to appreciate it. But so interesting how it goes to show the phases and the process and how necessary each forum is for wherever one is in their journey.

I too was annoyed by people in here doing lighthearted things - thought it was not the place. come to find, it's exactly the place. These are your friends, and have been, when times are dark - why would it be different when times feel a little better? I took a hiatus from here for a few months, now I'm back a bit, but I find I'm lurking totally different forums :)

Me: BW, 52, BC survivor x2
Married 20 yrs, together 25
14 yo boy Autism spectrum
16 yo typical functioning
DD#1 2/6/13 PA, False R 4+ yrs
DD#2 2/20/20 EA(mutual friend) learned of another PA same day - serial
DD#3 2 weeks later W/PA AP
Separated 5/

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:51 PM on Thursday, January 7th, 2021

Absolutely. I couldn't even figure out the purpose of Stupid Picture Friday. Now, of course, it's ahighlight even in the best weeks.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 7:50 PM on Thursday, January 7th, 2021

When I came here and was having a particularly difficult time when I discovered a broken NC, a former guide mentioned I could probably use the break and to go check it out.

So I did, I giggled. I started my own SPF with my work colleagues and still to it today (12 years later 4 jobs later).

I also promised myself to post in OT or Fun and Games each day that I posted in another forum. It helped keep me sane and gave my brain a break.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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imokay ( member #3522) posted at 3:34 AM on Friday, January 15th, 2021

It took me a few months to be able to come here with any regularity.

Then it was my lifeline for many months while the other forums were too much of a trigger.

Omg the turn some of these posts would take. It had been years since I had laughed so hard. It was a lifesaver!!

One post I remember vividly even though it must have been about 15 years ago (remembering it still makes me giggle) was speculating what the Queen of England carries in her handbag.

Me: BS - 58 now
Him: WS - 60 now
Married 21 years at time of A
EA/PA that lasted 10 months.

DD: 2/10/02
Fully reconciled.

What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us.

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Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 6:21 AM on Sunday, January 31st, 2021

Yes - how could anyone laugh or see humor?? I was also fangirling on the whole D/S forum folk too because they seemed so brave and sensible.

40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.

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Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 7:02 PM on Wednesday, February 10th, 2021

This forum was always a reminder that there is life after infidelity, this section brings it full circle, We Laugh, We Cry, We Kick its Ass!!!!

Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 32 years

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LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 10:31 AM on Friday, March 19th, 2021

When I am seriously depressed, I can’t click the link.

So, I am on and off depending on where my heads at.

Not the best today, but maybe it’s the pick me up that I need 🙏🏼

September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼

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