Topic is Sleeping.
Okokok ( member #56594) posted at 3:29 AM on Wednesday, September 2nd, 2020
I think this OLD thong is hard for me
Justsomeguy, this is your problem right here. You should be wearing boxers or, preferably, actual pants in your profile pics.
Erstwhile BH and BBF. Always healing.
Divorced dad with little kids.
Justsomeguy (original poster member #65583) posted at 5:05 AM on Wednesday, September 2nd, 2020
Okokok absolutely wins the internet today!
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:55 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced 20
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 1:52 PM on Wednesday, September 2nd, 2020
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
BetterTimesAhead ( member #70001) posted at 6:21 PM on Wednesday, September 2nd, 2020
OLD = Online Dating
Thank you!
And enjoy it JustSomeGuy. Look at it as a positive of your new life.
Me: BS - 56 Him: WH - 57 DDAY: 2/22/2019 - Three year EA and PA Filed for D 9/2021 - signed the papers 8/2023 - time to rebuild***************An apology without the action to back it up is just manipulation.
Justsomeguy (original poster member #65583) posted at 1:39 AM on Thursday, September 3rd, 2020
Well, I set my status to private on my OLD platform and I think I am stepping away. I can't explain it, but being on there was hurting me. It made me sad and I don't know why. Surely I have every right for some type of relationship. Maybe it's just too soon and my subconscious is trying to tell me something. I'm going to listen to my gut and regroup. I really miss having a someone special though. Funny how infidelity kicks the shit out of you.
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:55 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced 20
LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 2:29 AM on Thursday, September 3rd, 2020
I so glad someone asked about the meaning of OLD.
Have you tried OLD for the over 50’s?
I got persuaded to setup a free profile as a dare on a site for Mature OLD.
I got over 100 likes, smiles and messages and phone numbers in the 1st week. That was scary, actually. Now I have no idea how to remove the profile. The free listing doesn’t allow me to interact with anyone. I removed my profile picture but still get the occasional SMILE.
I realised that I certainly am not ready for a new relationship. I have a long way to go yet. Actually I am happier alone. At times it would be nice to hear a voice, when I am in a better headspace maybe?
September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼
heartbrokeninNC ( member #72472) posted at 2:47 AM on Thursday, September 3rd, 2020
I'm going to listen to my gut and regroup.
^^ this is a great idea. Don't put yourself out there if you are not ready for it. You do you!!
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
99problems ( member #59373) posted at 3:23 AM on Thursday, September 3rd, 2020
I think this OLD thong is hard for me because I really loved being somebody's husband. I loved being a family man and now I have to be single. Add to this, having ended an on again off again relationship 6 months ago, I find myself just so bloody tired. Yet I am profoundly lonely. I just want some adult interaction. My buddies are married and busy, the meetups here are pretty thin and kinda lame, I'm too gutless to start my own, yadda yadda yadda...
Maybe I just pissed at life handing me this 4 year shit sandwich. Okay, pity fest done.
Feeling you on loving the family man/not really enjoying the singles scene thing.
It is fucking exhausting and never was my "cup of tea".
I may just be single for a really long time and I think I'm ok with that.
I can live without sex, if anything my marriage proved that.
Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,
Justsomeguy (original poster member #65583) posted at 3:35 AM on Thursday, September 3rd, 2020
Idiotmcsrupid: I agree. I can deal with not having sex, but what I miss is intimacy. I miss having someone to talk to. I miss having someone to make coffee for in the morning. I miss having a friend around. It's the utter loneliness that is wearing me down.
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:55 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced 20
thishurts123 ( member #58848) posted at 6:17 AM on Monday, September 7th, 2020
I'm right there with you. I signed up for OLD and decided I wasn't ready. It scared me a little - I got likes and even had a few lunch dates. There was no excitement in it for me. The men were nice but luckily there was not a lot of interest on either side. No chemistry I guess. The lack of intimacy, having someone to talk to and hold hands with - that's what I miss the most. Maybe someday it will come back to me. Now just doesn't seem to be the time. Wishing yo the best.
Justsomeguy (original poster member #65583) posted at 6:39 AM on Monday, September 7th, 2020
Thank you all. I think it's the right decision for me.
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:55 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced 20
Topic is Sleeping.
