oldtimer97 ( member #2365) posted at 11:51 PM on Thursday, December 10th, 2015
The ever-witty Sistermilkshake on the oft repeated theme of the affairing down of AP & the common visual results:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=574606
Upon finding what appears to be the OW, after a months long scouring of the internet, she calls him to face the computer screen:
He came and looked. Was totally blindsided and turned a ghastly shade of white. He choked out the words "Yes, and hasn't aged well!"
Me: Oh, fuck. We are in a lot of trouble.
Him: Why? What do you mean?
Me: Well, apparently you'll fuck anything!
“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.”
― Maya Angelou
To save a marriage, you must be willing to lose the marriage.
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 3:52 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2015
From TrustGone
I was tired of living with the elephant sitting on our rug swept rug.
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 10:42 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2015
From Nekorb:
Her DS re the OW:
DS said: If "down" is a step, dad just fell down a whole fucking flight of stairs.
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 6:57 PM on Tuesday, December 29th, 2015
leeoob's explanation for understanding brokenness
You have two systems in you. An emotional and a logic one. You are trying to use your logic-system to understand something that was done with an (broken) emotional-system. You will never make any logical sense of out that.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
MakingMyFuture ( member #43530) posted at 10:43 PM on Sunday, January 10th, 2016
Background: Neverwudaguessed made a common mistake (threat 'well that's why you don't go look at the APs Facebook Page' in General). OWs post about 'lost love' was so pathetic and embarrassing that most of us couldn't even finish it.
Notthevictim summed it up perfectly...
"Damn... that's kind of like being at the zoo and seeing a monkey take a s***."
When people show you who they really are, believe them - Maya Angelou
BW: 43 (me) WH: 42 (him)
DD-13, DS-11
DDay 1 = 1/13, DDay2 = 7/14 (False R), D 4/15
MakingMyFuture ( member #43530) posted at 9:31 AM on Friday, January 15th, 2016
OutoftheDeep in New Beginnings: PSA for men on OLD (Online Dating)
"Please don't mention your cxck within in the first 4 messages to me. In fact, please don't mention your cxck at all"
it's much funnier without the x in the middle...but thought I would swap it in since this list may live for years to come!
When people show you who they really are, believe them - Maya Angelou
BW: 43 (me) WH: 42 (him)
DD-13, DS-11
DDay 1 = 1/13, DDay2 = 7/14 (False R), D 4/15
Walloped ( member #48852) posted at 3:35 PM on Friday, January 22nd, 2016
I'm sorry, but I had to add this one.
From the JFO thread "Anyone surprised at how the OP looked?" DistressedMess said:
When he told me who she was, I remembered what Princess Leia said to Han Solo when she first saw the Millennium Falcon -
"You came in that thing? You're braver than I thought!"
Me: BH 47
Her: WW 46
DDay 8/3/15
"Every life is a pile of good things and bad things. The good things don’t always soften the bad things, but vice versa the bad things don’t necessarily spoil the good things or make them unimportant.” - The Doctor
Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 3:09 PM on Friday, January 29th, 2016
Funnelcakes on TT in General:
In our case, I'd say it's been a case of low-grade shitweaseliness combined with an outbreak of minimization, a spike in blameshifting, with episodes of situational amnesia, bizarre word salad cheater aphasia, and delusions that Herr Funnelcakes could somehow manage the message after the cat got out the bag.
BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 12:11 AM on Wednesday, February 3rd, 2016
Jeez, ya slap up a thread and the come back to find it's inhabited by pool-size margaritas, a pool table, more than a whiff of beans, some bizarre desert tribe emerging mirage-like from the shimmering horizon, and Skan's rack. I love this place.
funnelcakes in General. I think I've found my spirit twin.
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
IrishGirlVA ( member #39694) posted at 5:22 PM on Thursday, February 4th, 2016
Not necessarily a quote but rather a question in OT asked by Notthevictem.
If I wanted to color my nipples green, what's the best way to do it?
This had to be memorialized somewhere and this was the best place I could think of.
For those who are interested...
A sharpie.
A sharpie is the best way to color your nips.
funnelcakes ( member #45249) posted at 5:40 AM on Saturday, February 13th, 2016
I just saw these. Y'all are some feisty folks. Threnody, we can be spirit twins.
d-day in August of 2014, when I was SAHM 34 weeks pregnant with kid #3
A year of incontinent alcoholic cheater word salad and shitweasely blameshifting during R/S
I got a job and busted a move with three kids to a 1BR apt
D final 4/27/17.
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 5:15 PM on Friday, February 26th, 2016
Freedom is only a door knob away if you can't handle it.
Floridaredman in WS
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:32 AM on Friday, March 4th, 2016
Her WH continues to be a genital.
HFSSC pdate on Dragnheart in Off Topic.
[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:32 PM, March 3rd (Thursday)]
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 9:23 PM on Thursday, March 17th, 2016
Imagoodwitch with some of the best advice I've read on here:
Do not sign anything or tattoo anything.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
onlytime ( member #45817) posted at 2:24 PM on Friday, March 18th, 2016
HT in the Menz thread
on thinking too much on pro-/anti- biases on SI
I prescribe myself an 800 mg fucking chill pill and wash it down with a big old glass of what the fuck do I know anyway.
R'd w/ BetterFuture13
T 20+ yrs w/ adult kids 😇 + grands
"The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall" ~Nelson Mandela
Carealot ( member #47603) posted at 6:28 AM on Saturday, March 19th, 2016
Thanks to all for posting these Lovelies.
Makes me smile.
Me 56y/o BW
Him 56Y/O FWH BP
DD 29 DS31 WITH SZ
DDAY1 FOR EA JULY 2014 IMMEDIATE SEPARATION PER FWH WISHES
DID THE 180
DDAY #2 4/13/15
TT DDay #3&4 4/20/15 and 4/21/15 EA from last July was actually a PA till Dec.2014.
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 6:58 PM on Friday, March 25th, 2016
ceilingfanswitch got an email from his XW, complaining about how she's in financial distress:
Of course I responded by crickets chirping. I almost sent an email with only the text "unsubscribe" but instead I just ignored her.
CFS is my new snarkhero.
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
trophywife411 ( member #47784) posted at 6:09 PM on Monday, April 11th, 2016
I think you just checked in to the Year Two What the Fuck Hotel. And just like another famous hotel, you can check out any time you like, but you can never leave. This shit is with you forever. Welcome.
Gold from Rebreather in Recon
Me-BW 40
fWH 45
together 18 years, married 16
Dday March 2015, Final TT 6/17/15
Reconciling
Sadlady14 ( member #47265) posted at 7:18 AM on Sunday, April 17th, 2016
Love them. Lots of wisdom here.
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 12:56 AM on Saturday, May 7th, 2016
Next time tell him that honesty does not equal amnesty. The point of requiring honesty when reconciling is to get the full unvarnished truth about the past damage, not a hall pass to create more!
Wisdom shared by SkepticallyStuck - in response to a situation where a WH confessed to breaking NC and was upset that the BW was pissed about it because he was demonstrating honesty...
[This message edited by sassylee at 6:57 PM, May 6th (Friday)]
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
