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The Book Club :
Gone Girl

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solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 12:26 AM on Sunday, September 14th, 2014

The book pissed me off. The author likes writing unlikeable characters--and succeeded in spades.

But the ending just pissed me off. When I devote time to a book, especially one with so much conflict, I want some sort of... Payoff. Didn't get it.

I wish Affleck weren't in the movie. I think it might be better on screen. But I suspect that I will leave a theater pissed off, too. (Don't go, right? I won't. But I'll watch it On Demand--and it will still piss me off! Clearly I am a glutton for punishment--a lifetime with personality disordered people draws me to stories like this--I keep trying to figure out the un-figure-out able. Silly me.)

[This message edited by solus sto at 6:27 PM, September 13th (Saturday)]

BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams

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Ascendant ( member #38303) posted at 4:12 PM on Sunday, October 12th, 2014

Just finished this book last night...tore through the whole thing in about a day. Really hard to put down. I liked it, I really did.

It's going to sound awful, but in some ways I could relate to both main characters, unlikeable or no, at least as far as their internal monologues are concerned.

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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 11:30 PM on Sunday, October 12th, 2014

Haven't read the book, but thinking of going to the movie with MisterSister this week. However, if it has infidelity in it, I don't want to go. Yay or nay?

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

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HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 12:47 AM on Monday, October 13th, 2014

SMS, it's pretty much a central part of the story.

I was forewarned reading the book so it wasn't too triggery. But you may want to forgo this movie.

Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.

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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 2:30 AM on Monday, October 13th, 2014

Thanks, HFSCC. I figured it was but wanted to verify that. I mean, in most murders/missing spouse cases there is almost always infidelity lurking somewhere.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

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Skye ( member #325) posted at 2:14 PM on Monday, October 13th, 2014

I didn't care for the book. I wouldn't waste my money to see the movie. And as far as the infidelity being a trigger, these characters were so unlikeable that the infidelity was minor compared to all their character deficiencies.

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rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 4:53 PM on Monday, October 13th, 2014

The thing is - I found the book to be immensely readable, despite all the Infidelity bullshit in it.

The Amy character was so wonderfully drawn as complicated and twisted. Nick just seemed like a classic douche.

I wanted to put it down. It triggered me. But damn it was a good book.

It was either this movie or the Judge this past weekend. Well guess what - the Judge has cheating in it too...

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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 4:57 PM on Monday, October 13th, 2014

Aww, shit, rachel, we are debating between "Gone Girl" and "The Judge", too, for this week's movie date. Gahhhh! Does the fucking "Guardians of the Galaxy" have infidelity in it, too?

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

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rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 1:51 PM on Tuesday, October 14th, 2014

Wasn't too deep in the Judge...

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LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 11:16 PM on Tuesday, October 14th, 2014

I didn't read the book but saw the movie - went on my own the other night. At the end I was like, Really? This is how you are ending it? So, I guess I would have been even more ticked off had I spent the time reading the book!

The Judge - cannot go wrong with RDJr. Looking forward to that one!

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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Beetjehart ( member #45055) posted at 3:19 PM on Monday, November 3rd, 2014

Triggered me too. Almost didn't.finish, but glad I pushed ahead. Ot did twist. Not sure I liked the ending.

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NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 7:14 PM on Sunday, January 4th, 2015

I loved it.

I loved that it was different and didn't have a typecast storybook ending.

I loved the plot twists and the depth of the characters that were brought out as you read more and more.

I don't think you always have to identity with a character

I agree. I don't always want to read about people like me. Sometimes, I like to try to get in other people's heads.

Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 2:23 PM on Monday, January 5th, 2015

I told my LMHC friend she'd have a field day reading the book.

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NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 12:22 AM on Tuesday, January 6th, 2015

I told my LMHC friend she'd have a field day reading the book.

Yeah! I'm in the mental health field, and I think what I really liked was trying to figure out the characters and what types of people they were, what types of disorders they probably had, etc.....

Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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Newlease ( member #7767) posted at 8:59 PM on Friday, January 9th, 2015

Ok - Nick was not a great guy, but Amy was a psychopath. It didn't trigger me at all. I HATED the ending - it really pissed me off and I felt sorry for the kid - what kind of a life would that kid have with those 2 for parents?

NL

Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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BrokenRoad ( member #15334) posted at 12:41 AM on Saturday, January 31st, 2015

Reading it now...

Book club here meets Feb 15th to talk about it...

{Him}FBH - 51 (WifeHad5){Me} FWW - 52 2 kids: 16 & 21 Reconciled :)*Learning is a gift. Even when pain is your teacher.*

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doodle123 ( new member #46638) posted at 3:04 PM on Tuesday, February 3rd, 2015

I don't like books/movies where I don't like at least one of the characters.

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