Notdaniel ( new member #41302) posted at 9:24 PM on Sunday, December 1st, 2013
This was a good read. I will say that betrayed spouses could react differently to some of it. I do have to communicate more and tell her why I want her and will work on doing that today. Spending time together is kinda mood dependent. I appreciate the insight into her mind.
WH-that's me (37)
Super amazing wife (39)
1 child
kmom2662 ( member #41494) posted at 2:20 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2013
That was incredibly helpful to read. My BS is having trouble sleeping, panic attacks, lots of emotions all the time. I feel terrible for what I've done to him. I'm going to print this and keep it handy. I think it will help both of us sort through things
Me-- WW, 49
Him-- BH, 53 (bobf)
Married 22 years
OEA, chat/email with multiple people over an 8 week period, 8/2013-10/4/2013
D-day 10/4/13
Working on reconciliation
Unagie ( member #37091) posted at 7:39 PM on Saturday, December 7th, 2013
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 2:55 AM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2013
*bump* for cricketinturmoil.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 5:19 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
lostandhopless ( member #41568) posted at 12:21 AM on Sunday, January 12th, 2014
Be careful who you trust. Even your shadow will abandon you when it's dark.....
Divorced 6/13/14
OnTilt ( member #34140) posted at 12:10 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
BS(Me), WH(Him) in our 50's
Status: I'm giving up on him
cantseestraight3 ( new member #42112) posted at 11:49 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2014
OK, I think I found a way out of this one. I found the article (with some minor changes it seems) on another website. I will send her THAT link instead.
Somehow I feel safer supplying that little bit of misdirection.
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 11:24 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
foolishlycluless ( member #41404) posted at 12:04 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014
This is a great thread. I want to provide it to my WS, but I'm not sure how he will react.
Me: BW; married 36 years; now happily divorced.
XWH: Not a bad person; just made bad choices. Now living with OW.
MessedUpAndDown ( member #24367) posted at 11:06 PM on Saturday, January 25th, 2014
Me: BH
Her: WW
Married: 16 years
DDay: 12-12-08 ~ S: 8-1-10
"If at first you don't succeed, try try again. Then give up. There's no sense in being a damn fool about it." - W.C. Fields
Wayflost ( member #41583) posted at 2:37 AM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2014
"Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly."
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 4:55 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
somethingremorse ( member #42047) posted at 7:03 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Bump -- should be on page 1. I look for it all of the time.
Me: WH (40s)
DDay 11/03/13
In MC and IC
TennisTC ( member #41330) posted at 7:07 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
Me: BW Him: WH (Both early 30's)
Married 11 years with a DD 7
R'ing
DTERMINED2SURVIV ( member #42294) posted at 2:38 AM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014
BS here....LOVED IT. Definitely touches on the back and forth we feel. Even those, silent blank stares....Yes, we are thinking about it...HELP!!
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 9:35 PM on Thursday, March 6th, 2014
Bump. 
BtraydWife ( member #42581) posted at 10:02 PM on Thursday, March 20th, 2014
Thanks! I bookmarked it too. Every WS should read this.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 3:22 PM on Monday, March 31st, 2014
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 10:53 PM on Saturday, April 12th, 2014
Bumping this to the top of the thread again. Great post for anyone who hasn't read it yet.
