Should i make her leave
had a heart attack two weeks ago. While in hospital my wife left her phone on my bed table. It kept pinging so i picked it up just in case it was important. I read some messages and realized straight away that my wife has been seeing someone for several months and chatting most nights. They have been talking about how much in love they are and going abroad so they can marry. Also things like they wish they could wake up and be lying next to each other. I was in no state to confront her while in hospital after having heart surgery. Iam now home. I spoke to her about it. I did not get angry i just explained that i was devastated after 40yrs together. She said the words meant nothing she wants to stay with me. But she cannot let go still wants to see this man and keep messaging him.i know what i should do, but im too ill to leave the family home at the moment. She calling it escapism and it means nothing. But my whole world has fallen apart. I cannot talk to anyone as i feel a bit stupid. So i came here so strangers could maybe help me out emotionally i do not know how to cope.an i wrong in thinking this is far more than eascapism and that i should just let go. She cannot see that she is doing anythung wrong. For my own sanity i think one of should leave. The worst part is i dont even wish her ill. I want her to be happy even if it is not with me. At the moment her happiness is causing me nothing but pain
11 comments posted: Wednesday, December 17th, 2025
