Found out he continued
Hello. I made a post in reconciliation last week but within that and reading others i decided to sit my WS down and have a chat.
In the chat he came clean about continuing to search AP pictures online. Swears he only did it one time since i had found out before. It has been an ongoing problem for about 6 years. Really our entire relationship.
I just found out about the most recent which has thrown me into past problems and thoughts. I really am struggling with it and i’m unsure how to deal with it. He wants to just sweep it away and stopped communicating about it.
I’ve tried to get past what happened before but finding out it happened again. Even though there is still NC, i feel looking at APs pictures falls in the same category as everything else.
I just need advice and support. I’m really losing my mind.
4 comments posted: Monday, November 17th, 2025
We reconciled, but did my mind not?
I (23F) and my WS(32M) went through a very rough patch a single month after our wedding. D-Day was 10/23/2022. I got suspicious of things and texted WS ex to see if something was going on. I had asked they not communicate cause something felt off between them. I’m not the jealous type, he loved his exs child like his own and i understood. But when messages turned up missing i explained my emotions and asked NC begin.
Found out, emails, snapchats, tiktok chats were happening behind my back. Photos and videos shared. Money being spent to buy photos. A whole slew of things. It hurt me. Majorly. I wasn’t sure what to do. We separated for a month before we decided to wipe the slate clean and try again. I told him for it to work, i needed to know everything.
WS gave me small details. Story changing often. With AP being from the state WS is from, they made 1 opportunity to see each other when we were on a family vacation.
I asked about that night. WS said that he went there, saw her through the fence gate and left. Later changing it to they had talked for 5 minutes then he left. Then again changed it to they had a beer, he was there for 30-45 minutes. But swears nothing physical ever happened.
When pushed for more information I was told "You’re just hurting yourself, please stop asking." or "All it does is hurt you, i’ve told you everything i remember"
3 years later, a couple of mess ups that i have found since then. And I still am trying to amend things. Feel better.
I tell everyone we reconciled, and we did for the most part. But i’m unsure if my mind really gave everything back in or if my heart did. I fear that truths were kept from me. Do I truly need the full truth to continue? Or if i get a full or different truth, I’m scared reconciliation won’t be able to happen, because it’ll break me completely.
15 comments posted: Wednesday, November 12th, 2025
