Is it worth it

Found out my partner had cheated on me twice. I am devastated, what she did was wrong. But I can't sit here and say I didn't play a part.we have been together over a year and in that time I put very little effort in.she had given me multiple warnings about this problem and I just ignored them.

She knows that cheating was wrong, but says after a year of getting me to put some effort in she had just checked out. Another guy came along and showed her the attention I wasn't. She turned him down the first time. But the second time she gave in. She broke up with me when she got back.she works away.

She didn't tell me about the cheating. I found out myself.

I want to give it another shot and so does she, but is this the right decision. I didn't really make any demands of her, but she has decided to delete Snapchat and give me access to anything I want. She said she will look for a new job where she doesn't have to go away for weeks at a time.

I know she loved me at the start and over 12 months I destroyed that. if I put the effort in at the start none of this probably happens.

Even after she dumped me she still cared about me she just wasn't in love with me anymore.

We both know we need to change but is to much damage already been done? I don't condone cheating under any circumstances but nothing is ever black and white.

Thanks for listening.

11 comments posted: Sunday, December 25th, 2022