Meeting Ex Spouses' Affair Partner
I've been divorced from my XWW for almost seven years. In all, we had a mature divorce, but I haven't had contact with her in about six years. She proceeded at some point to marry her AP, whom I have still never met.
I've remained very close friends with a relative of my XWW as they are not a blood relative of hers and we were close friends for years prior to the divorce. This person made it clear that our friendship was just as important to them and the divorce would not interfere, which has remained true to this day.
I was invited to my friends kids graduation party, who refers to me as "uncle" since I've known him since he was a wee lad. I know my XXW and her AP will be there, so part of me wants to decline the invitation. Honestly, I don't want to meet my XWW's AP. I have since moved on with my life and have a wife and kid, but I just have no desire to meet the person who is part responsible for years of emotional and psychological pain. I'm not afraid of conflict, but I just don't want that to be the time/place where I meet him for the first time, if ever. I think my friend might understand, but I'm just torn.
Thoughts?
8 comments posted: Friday, December 22nd, 2023
