9 years later

Hello,
So 9 years after DDay my husband has come to me and asked for a divorce because what we had before he broke it was perfect but he doesn’t want to be old when we divorce and have to start over then. He convinced me to stay be a stay at home mom with 2 boys and asked me to ruin my credit so he could run for county office position. Not to mention one of our boys is autistic but it’s time he puts himself 1st. He tried absolutely everything and my thoughts on the situation don’t matter. Luckily I was able to get help from my family and get out of there and get a decent job for my situation overall but other than my boys I regret ever trying to make it work. He had another girl lined up who left her husband and 2 daughters as well but I never even asked or reacted to any of it. Both our hometown was 3 hours from where we were living and he is a big fish in a little pond that would have continued to run my life if I didn’t move back and his family is here 2. I guess I’m struggling with realizing he was never what I thought he was. I have been with him since I was 15 and I’m 35 and I’m just now realizing the emotional abuse I experienced. It is also hard when I’m told and understand people only treat us the way we let them but he started molding me when I was 15 into seeing him as my life raft. I know I’m in stages of grief and believe I’m in anger now and that isn’t me but it is right now. How can he not want to move back home as well to be close to the boys especially when the resources for autism are so much better? How is only ever other weekend enough on seeing them and even then he still is seeing them at my house or his mothers? Why is some other woman more important to his family? Was I perfect? No I wasn’t I have struggled with a lot since dday but he never made me feel safe. He made it clear after a certain point I was no longer supposed to have feelings about the affair and if I still did that was my problem. I bent myself so much to try to be what he wanted but I was always in the wrong. Idk I just don’t know how to feel or think. I don’t know how money wise we will get by. I have to be able to be home when my autistic son is and I got a job at the school but it is part time. It is just all crazy.

0 comment posted: Monday, September 16th, 2024