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Icedover84 ( member #82901) posted at 8:56 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2024

My advice is to continue the location sharing. Accountability shouldn't be a short-term thing, but something the two of you do for each other to show you're where you say you'll be. Additionally, it's great to see things are improving after six months. You'll likely still experience emotional fluctuations for the next year or so, but it'll get a little easier each time.

I hope things continue to improve!

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This0is0Fine ( member #72277) posted at 11:30 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2024

Love isn't worth it in my opinion. No kids. Lied to before marriage. I say cut your losses now.

You are sprinting past her red flags.

Love is not a measure of capacity for pain you are willing to endure for your partner.

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 brokenandlost1 (original poster new member #84667) posted at 4:49 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2024

Thank you everyone for your points. I'm trying to keep neutral and don't act without a clear mind, whence why i didnt went before on the route that this0is0Fine said, but is not something that i believe. I still believe in love, and is the thing that still keeps me here trying, but i understand your point on the lies and yeah, i'm keeping an eye on every behavior ever since.

Icedover84, i think i'll discuss that point with my IC, but at some point i'm trying to not use this stuff as a clutch for my mind, since in a certain way i need to give her the space to keep proving stuff for me, but i'll try to keep your point in mind on next IC session. I think that things are improving in a good way because she is doing her part in all of this, and i can feel that is genuine. Like i said on my previous texts, she keeps apologizing, trying to make things confortable for me at all times and being transparent whenever i ask her anything, which is helping me a lot.

Sorry if is a confusing text, it is not my first language and sometimes i find hard to express myself properly. I dont wanna sound like everything is going fine and such, i'm still suffering and trying to heal, but things are not a hell too. I think i'm a more positive person, and since she's working hard to make amends i can give some space so she can keep proving this.

Thank you everyone.

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