Topic is Sleeping.
HellFire ( member #59305) posted at 10:36 PM on Saturday, January 9th, 2021
Your needs were not being met and you found validation elsewhere.
So it's his wife's fault he cheated?
Seriously?
But you are what you did
And I'll forget you, but I'll never forgive
The smallest man who ever lived..
BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 11:42 PM on Saturday, January 9th, 2021
Why wasn't your wife's coldness and critical behavior a problem for you before you got married?
And if you feel inclined to blame your wife for your affair, then why aren't you also blaming yourself for her lack of desire and affection for you?
[This message edited by BluerThanBlue at 5:43 PM, January 9th (Saturday)]
BW, 40s
Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried
I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 9:07 PM on Sunday, January 10th, 2021
I agree with hikingout and gmc. Well said by both.
Take responsibility for your life. Maybe if you also engaged with your wife more she would be more interested. She has a lot on her plate.
Your post Is more about justifying your EA than taking responsibility. I am not seeing any remorse just excuses.
If you justify this EA, you will do the same for a PA. It gets easier. I know, my stbxh is text book in how he progressed.
your poor me about having an unloving wife is not admirable. She is not unloving, you both have to work on your M.
You need to go to IC. She is the same woman you married and she does a lot for you and your family.
You both can decide to fix this or not. Stop finding excuses, find solutions and go to counselling. This could be the catalyst to fixing your M. Or you can decide to end it.
Just own what you did and that your marital problems are also yours.
Topic is Sleeping.
