sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 1:02 PM on Tuesday, August 29th, 2023
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:50 PM on Wednesday, November 8th, 2023
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 9:25 PM on Saturday, December 30th, 2023
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Lostwings ( member #79902) posted at 12:23 AM on Thursday, January 11th, 2024
I thought it was love at the end of the rainbow , but a banshee came and almost destroyed my pot of gold . In R.
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 4:22 PM on Friday, February 9th, 2024
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 3:15 PM on Monday, March 4th, 2024
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 8:49 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2024
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
wjbrennan78 ( member #84763) posted at 4:45 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2024
Question from a newbie. As far as giving gifts - I was making myself some tea last night, and I asked my WW if she would want one. She answered "yes, but you don't have to" - I scoffed and said it is not big deal. When delivering the tea I told her "I don't Hate YOU, I Hate IT!"
Was the act of providing her soothing tea, and soothing words a "gift". Are these actions something I should not do.
I'm trying to act with kindness and grace through all of this. But I really want to stay as close as possible to the 180. I cannot remain the same broken person that was created two weeks ago. And I cannot put up with the trickle truths and stonewalling.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 12:32 AM on Friday, May 3rd, 2024
You will probably get more responses if you ask on your thread. This post is usually just "bumped" so people can read it.
Was the act of providing her soothing tea, and soothing words a "gift". Are these actions something I should not do.
If you're doing the 180, then yes, this is something you don't do. Don't do anything. You want as little interaction as possible Treat her like she's the world's worst roommate.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 10:22 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Marie82 ( new member #84924) posted at 4:14 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2024
Thank you for bumping this. The detachment is so hard and I feel like it’s making WH even meaner to me. But I know I need to detach to move on.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:44 PM on Saturday, September 21st, 2024
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 3:38 PM on Wednesday, October 2nd, 2024
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
gray54 ( member #85293) posted at 12:28 AM on Thursday, October 3rd, 2024
This is so helpful. Thank you, SI, these experienced insights are so desperately needed for us newbies. I will keep revisiting as I struggle thru processing.
Me: BW, married 1998 to PA/SAWH, DDay1 2010, DDay2 Aug 2024, Divorced April 2025
Live in the present, it's what we got.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 3:59 AM on Wednesday, November 6th, 2024
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 12:36 AM on Tuesday, March 18th, 2025
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 12:41 PM on Sunday, April 13th, 2025
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:09 PM on Saturday, July 5th, 2025
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 6:37 PM on Friday, September 12th, 2025
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
alwayslove ( member #86533) posted at 6:17 AM on Saturday, September 13th, 2025
