A confession update! The last 10 hours have been rather mad and unexpected.
She came in late last night after going out drinking with friends (confirmed).
I unexpectedly felt it was the right setting to confront her on what was going on in the background.
I did it so very gently, no raised voice, no throwing evidence at her. I initially asked about it being the end for us, and if so wanting to move it on quickly and swiftly.
I explained how our friendship was so precious to us and I don’t feel we have that, we don’t have the trust and integrity and if anything we need it for the kids.
I said I know what is going on from what I saw on her phone. She resisted a number of times though I reinforced with further pieces of evidence.
I continued being calm and asking how it would feel if the roles were reversed. Saying that she had more than a friendship with him.
I said how I have no one else in the picture, though indirectly said that wasn’t the case for her.
If she wants a separation to know what she wants then it’s need to be a level playing field.
I again said about needing honesty and being open.
I feel if she carries on with anything now that it is on the table, then we are done.
[This message edited by thoughtpoet58 at 2:52 PM, Monday, September 2nd]