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Dear STBXWW,

Dragging out the divorce proceedings for another year, now going on 5 years, will not work. If you are hoping I die on my motorcycle, it won't happen. I'm too skilled.

Riding 2007 Harley Roadking with modified fairings. I could get killed everyday. If I die before my time, it will probably be on the 405.

Maybe you should double check your bike.

So, your WW still won’t sign the separation agreement you offered to her as you posted in August, 2020? She keeps you in limbo and has made no move to proceed with divorce even though she moved out 4.5 years ago? Is staying in this limbo still financially advantageous?

She stalled three months IN TOTAL SILENCE with the agreement in her hand, that she agreed to sign. She told friends and neighbors that it was over, that she was going to sign. Word got back to me through those neighbors that she said she was going to sign and that it was over. Instead, and without a word, she quit collaborative divorce, got a new lawyer, filed for litigation and I was served.

Since we are litigating, and she knows my screen name here, I can't share details. Litigation may have always been inevitable, but I made the effort necessary to avoid it. For whatever reason, she backed away when the deal was done. And one of those reasons may well be that she is hoping for a series of unfortunate events to befall me.

Only time will tell.

Takethelongview, I was raised with a healthy fear of motorcycles. My father, a long time police officer, responded to numerous fatal motorcycle accidents. He said the accident was almost never the motorcyclist's fault. All the skill in the world will not protect you from drivers in vehicles who aren't paying attention. Please stay safe.

Going through a lengthy divorce myself, I empathize with you. Stay strong.

Very sorry to read this. Of course not surprised that she could not be trusted to follow through on her agreement. That’s her MO. Stay strong and follow your attorneys advice. Hoping for the best outcome possible for you.

Can you D pending the final agreement in assets and details like alimony?

Five years is a long time.

Sorry fir you.

A bit melodramatic and James Deanish thinking your wife has your demise planned to get your half of the home…

However… there are all sorts of things you can do to ensure that IF anything happens to you it’s not to her direct financial benefit. Like make sure you have the correct beneficiaries of your life-insurance, of your estate and so on. Possibly have a guardian to ensure your children’s rights if you were to crash into a signpost. Have an end-of-life statement and/or authority to decide medical treatment if you become incapacitated.
Look into what rights she still has to inheritance she might have while still married (even if divorced). A divorce becomes moot upon death per se, so if nothing is in place she might automatically become the chief beneficiary as your wife.

Clarify all those issues. C
Then make it clear to your wife that these things are in place.

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We once had a poster whose situation indicated that his wife and her lover might be out to kill him. The above is the advice I (and many others) gave him, only we also added the clause to share the concerns with a friend along with a sealed letter outlining why you had these concerns. The spouse was then informed that IF anything happened the life-insurance was already moved to the kids and that if the husband passed away under any circumstances there was a process in place to inform authorities and all stakeholders about his fears. Any money coming her way would be held until all doubt was cleared.

I considered bifurcation, it can be done in my state. It is rare though. I think that would just continue the futility. We have wasted years doing this, I want to be free.