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Divorce/Separation :
Father’s day still hurts

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 FirstLoveGone (original poster member #25957) posted at 5:28 PM on Sunday, June 20th, 2021

Been doing this single parent thing ffor 11 years. Father’s Day still hurts. I have no view into my DD’s relationship with her dad(XH). I was robbed of seeing that beautiful and important relationship between daughters and fathers.

This year sucks even more because my dad is in the hospital.

I need to stay off of FB today.

Hugs to all who are struggling g today.

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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 7:28 PM on Sunday, June 20th, 2021

(((FirstLoveGone)))

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 7:53 PM on Sunday, June 20th, 2021

(((FirstLoveGone))) Sorry you are hurting and sending mojo to your dad.

[This message edited by BearlyBreathing at 1:53 PM, June 20th, 2021 (Sunday)]

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 8:53 PM on Sunday, June 20th, 2021

I'm so sorry you are hurting.

I'm off FB pretty much every day.

Disconnecting from SM has been REALLY good for my mental health

(((FirstLoveGone)))

M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived

It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies

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Tentwinkletoes ( member #58850) posted at 12:34 PM on Monday, June 21st, 2021

I normally post something for wh for fathera day even since D-Day but more recently something has just clicked off in my head and I can't bring myself to put the face on it. It didn't hurt reading the posts though. I thought well good for them. With a dash of...well not everything you see on SM is true. I mean my posts are proof.

It felt Good to be authentic and not post at all.

I hope you survived the day and managed to dodge the soppy posts

Nobody is the villain in their own story. But if a stranger read your book would they agree?

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beb252 ( member #78948) posted at 11:51 PM on Monday, June 21st, 2021

My dad abandoned us when I was two years old and never received a penny from him. So I don't know what a father's love is and I don't have a template for being a father but I try my best for my kids.
All the best!

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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 8:09 PM on Tuesday, June 22nd, 2021

((first)) really sorry

So many of us feel your pain in different ways.

For the good dads on this forum...you go!!! You deserve a medal for showing up and doing your best especially in the storm of infidelity.

"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!

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twicefooled ( member #42976) posted at 10:41 PM on Tuesday, June 22nd, 2021

((hugs))

My ex hasn't reached out to the kiddos since Christmas - he texted them on Christmas Day that he would swing by with gifts, then that's the last they talked to him. He's alive, but he's an addict and is in a current downward spiral again.

Our son texted him "happy deadbeat father's day" and my ex texted me to tell me that.....and to chastise me for "allowing the disrespect"

My dad is in the hospital too. I had a good cry Father's Day evening and stayed off of SM for the day.

May 29 2021 ***reclaimed myself and decided to delete my story with my ex because I'm now 7 years free from him and mentally healthier than I've been in years.

*********When you know better, you can do better*************

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WarriorPrincess ( member #51806) posted at 3:30 PM on Wednesday, June 23rd, 2021

(((FirstLoveGone)))

We celebrated No-Father's Day. Just me, my daughter, and her girlfriend who recently moved out of her abusive parents' home. We grilled out at the national park and enjoyed the outdoors. laid back and relaxing and lovely.

It also hurt like hell. I had to go to a clinical that evening and my DD had a meltdown while I wasn't home. I think things are better now but it's hard to tell with her sometimes.

Some boys take a beautiful girl
And hide her away from the rest o' the world
I wanna be the one to walk in the sun
Oh girls, they wanna have fun....
(Cyndi Lauper)

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