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The Book Club :
The New Monogamy

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 limitedenergy (original poster member #59462) posted at 4:49 AM on Friday, August 25th, 2017

By Tammy Nelson

I picked this up to help with sex issues after the A.

The idea I liked the most was weekly date nights. I think that could be helpful in my situation (feeling disgusted and not wanting to be intimate). I wish it had had more information on how to evade thoughts of the A while trying to be intimate.

I think this book would be good for anyone in an open relationship, like swingers. It has a good way of talking about that. Doesn't apply to me, though.

It also uses a format of discussion that is familiar to anyone who has taken a communications class. Rephrasing and repeating someone else's message, for example. Good for anyone having communication issues, I think.

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Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 11:19 PM on Tuesday, September 12th, 2017

This was the first book I ordered on-line, shortly after d-day. I think the author is a fraud and would never recommend it. Just my opinion.

[This message edited by Unhinged at 5:20 PM, September 12th, 2017 (Tuesday)]

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 limitedenergy (original poster member #59462) posted at 8:32 PM on Tuesday, September 19th, 2017

Hm, I did get the feeling that the content wasn't researched well. One thing that I found strange was that it said you should specifically spell out your expectations. I would think most people would assume that their marriage was manogomous unless specified differently. The author says you should actually say it. Like in the movies where a cheating boyfriend says something like "well, we never said we were exclusive". Stupid.

But like another thing else, take what you need, as they say. I like the idea of date night.

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