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John Black, 42 West 42nd Street, Brighton

Good read, but if you can't remember the above in oh... let's say 10 minutes, you may want to pass.

liked it - but damn, depressing... I'm about her age.

I read that book at Christmas one year. Bawled like a baby. It's absolutely haunting.

meta, don't see the movie. It is sadder to watch than it was to read!

Such a sad book. Very well written, eye opening.

Watched the movie last week and am about 1/3 through the book, which I'm enjoying more than the movie.

Scares me because I forget so much and I'll be 50 this year so of course I keep comparing my forgetfulness to the symptoms that she was having that prompted her to go to the doctor.

Scary stuff, terrible disease.

Watched movie last night. Didn't feel it represented slow decline, especially in academia. Wanted to slug Alec Baldwin character. what is it with ppl using work as escape from life?

I thought Alec Baldwin portrayed the husband spectacularly. Better his work than another woman. Very few people have a clue on how to deal with illness.

As far as the decline, it seemed to me her type of Alzheimers was a fast deteriorating type. Some go on for years and others go quickly. I have friends dealing with both types right now. Also, what the book didn't focus on was how long she had been deteriorating. We look back now on one of my friends and realize little things we thought "all" of us did were the beginnings ten years before she was diagnosed.

I loved the book so much. It had me choked up throughout. The only scene that did that to me in the movie was when she couldn't find the bathroom in her house.

I loved how the book really got us inside her head, which obviously, a movie can't do as well as a book.

Better his work than another woman. Very few people have a clue on how to deal with illness.

oh I think people can have affairs with their jobs..

At any rate - it made for a good discussion for hubby and I and what we would do in that situation.

I finished it last night. Chilling.

I immediately sent an email to my lifelong friend telling her it freaked me out--to read at her own risk. My DH asked me not to talk to him about it anymore--he worries a lot about his own memory--and the fact that he also is a college professor must have hit a little too close.

When she wrote her suicide readiness test and the instructions on how to complete the suicide I wondered if she would have enough cognitive function to succeed. How sad to want out of your life but not have the capability to do so.

I think the worst part of it would be losing the memory of your children. Spouses, meh. But to not know your child... Or to know that their genetics will serve them the same fate.

John Black, 42 West 42nd Street, Brighton

[This message edited by Afraid2LoveAgain at 4:24 AM, June 26th (Friday)]

i know "regular" Alzheimer's MAY have a genetic component but it still being studied. Is it true that some Alzheimer's has a genetic component that PROVES you will get it, or was that just dramatic license? I know for a fact that the genetic marker my family carries does NOT prove you will get it. They have seen people without the marker be very bad with Alzheimer's, and people with a double marker be just fine at age 90+...

just curious.

The only book which has captivated me for a long time. Amazing and haunting! Still resonates with me months later!

Better his work than another woman. Very few people have a clue on how to deal with illness.

oh I think people can have affairs with their jobs..

The one thing my IC told me that gave me something to think about is how there can be "thirds" in a marriage. A third is not always an AP. it can be work, the kids, the gym, friends....

When my IC suggested that my kids were my thirds, I cut her loose.

How sad to want out of your life but not have the capability to do so.

But when she was farther out, she DIDN'T want out. The OLD her had wanted out if she got that bad, but the more declined Alice didn't want to kill herself. She was following instructions without knowing what it was for.

I just started reading Inside the O'Briens. It's Lisa Genova's other book.

So far so good.

"Left Neglected" was good, too.

My mother has dementia. The book made me sad. The movie made me bawl.

Married, or divorced, when we hit the point of being exceedingly vulnerable, if there is no one there to catch us ... no one to "have our back", the prospects of end-of-life are not welcoming to consider. Especially when the social and medical safety net of a nation is lacking. Or, in the case of the USA, absent.